The impetus that propelled me onto my original power trip was a comment I made about censoring power for fear of judgment.  Interestingly, that’s what I’ve ended up with.

Judgment.

It’s so easy to judge each other without stopping to consider any portion of where the other person is coming from.  It’s pervasive in our culture.  Perez Hilton has made an entire career passing judgment on celebrity photos and gossip.  Does he know each and every one of the people he writes about?  No.  Does he think about all facets of a situation before posting a bit of judgmental gossip?  I would assume that’s also a no.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not passing judgment on Perez.  I have idled away many an hour reading his ‘celebrity juice.’  It is what it is.  I am merely using his blog as an example of how quick we are as a society to pass judgment on our fellow humans.

In my experience with my posts here on this blog, some people judge me as a “complainer” or a “pathetic excuse for a mother” who “needs help.”  To that I say we all have our own journey.  Nowhere in my writing here am I asking for validation of who I am or situations I write about.  But I think my honest thoughts and feelings on motherhood, marriage and family touch a sore spot in some people, and it is so much easier for the reader to react with a judgment directed at me instead of looking in the mirror.

I came across a write-up of a new book today called the Inspiration Deficit Disorder by Jonathon Ellerby.  Ellerby writes about finding inspiration as an antidote to stress, bad habits and an unfulfilling life.  I love the title of this book.  It says to me that most people want to lead an inspired life but don’t have the attention span or patience to stick with it.

Living with intent, purpose, inspiration or power — however you want to phrase it — takes guts.  It takes guts to stand up and live your life in a way that makes you, the individual, happy.  Why should I be judged for wanting to live my own, inspired life for me instead of a compromised, perhaps uninspired, life that makes someone else happy?

I am by no means an expert on this subject, but I have learned a very important lesson from which this blog and my life inspiration have sprung:  Happiness, meaning and power in life (all aspects of life, work, relationships, etc.) start with a happiness and inspiration within yourself.  If other people validate that, great.  If other people want to take away from that, well… they can try, but they are only illuminating their own lack of power, inspiration and happiness.

We all rise, we all struggle, we all fall.  Why do we find it necessary to stand around and point fingers at one another in order to make ourselves feel better?  That’s empty power.  Real power comes from knowing who you are and being true to yourself, holding on to inspiration always.  Perhaps one day we will learn that receiving respect and compassion comes from first freely giving respect and compassion.

Guilt Goddess says: That’s some soap box, honey.  But true.
Me: What can I say?  I don’t like judgments.  And John Lennon’s “Imagine” is one of my favorite songs.  This is a judgment/Imagine cocktail.

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